And Aaronica is synonymous with fabulous–among other things.

Motherhood is something that many women strive for. I was never that little girl that had their entire wedding planned out by the ripe old age of 10. In fact, for either one of my weddings (yep, I’m on my second marriage) I barely wanted to show up because to me it was just another day. Did I care about the dress? Meh, no. The flowers? Not really. The food? Absolutely. I didn’t have my wedding planned out but I had my life as a mother planned. I was going to be this doting mom whose life was centered around their children. Soccer, dance, track, swim mom. Yes, that was going to be me.

But then life happened and I became a single mom at 26. I started out being exactly what I’d imagined being–hopelessly devoted to my mini. But then I wanted more. And by more, I wanted me back. Not in the same way, but a more mature me. I wanted to be seen as Aaronica, not Mini’s mom. I didn’t want to always be dressed in my mom attire (yes, mom attire). I wanted my style back. And I got it though it looked a little different. Becoming a more mature Aaronica got me my husband and second daughter, however, I found myself in a similar boat again.

As a mom of 2, wife, and entrepreneur, who am I? I asked myself this question probably about a month ago when I’d run out of my mom-uniform–yoga pants, nursing tank, and random t-shirt. As I looked through my closet filled with gorgeous jeweled tones and beautiful shoes and “freakum” dresses, I realized that it was time to redefine myself. I’m not the party girl nor am I the mom who wants to constantly be showing off the shape that I lost with the 2nd child. I’m not really into shopping like I was. Although I still love makeup (I mean, how could you not?), I’m not into the dramatic looks that I once was. It was time to redefine who I am in the current space that I’m in. And I did. I came up with a new elevator pitch and everything.

Here’s the awesome thing about womanhood–we are who we say we are. I was once this corporate Barbie doll determined to climb the ladder to success and break any and all glass ceilings in my way. I wanted to dominate and take over. Or so I thought. But that just isn’t me anymore. Now I’m an entrepreneur determined to be a positive influence to women all over the world that need help and inspiration. I want to help others as much as I can. I want to make people smile and have someone look at me and say, “Because of you, I did the things no one thought I could do”. This is who I am now.

So how do you reinvent yourself?

You’ve got to be honest with yourself about where you are. Ask yourself these questions:

  1. How would I describe myself?
  2. How do I think others would describe me? (Be honest)
  3. How do I WANT to be described/viewed?
  4. What things do I have to do to get there?

If you’re having trouble with the last question, ask for help from someone you trust.

It’s never too late to reinvent yourself. Seize the day!

Have you had to re-invent yourself? How did you do it?