While i was pregnant with both my daughters i heard my fair share of rude and insensitive comments. it seems like once you become pregnant, you wear a sign that says āinsult me pleaseā when in fact it should be the exact opposite. pregnancy is certainly an ice breaker, especially once you start showing. but if youāre breaking the ice, you should know what not to say so that you donāt end up sending the pregnant person into a fit of tears.
Pregnancy Etiquette 101: What Not To Say To A Pregnant Woman
Wow! You’re Huge
yes i am huge. and the funny thing is this morning when i looked in the mirror, i thought that i was looking something like a svelte twig instead of a beached orca which i clearly look like to you. pregnant women are aware of their size. just because you become pregnant doesnāt mean that you all of a sudden through your mirrors away and suffer from body dysmorphia. when youāre pregnant youāre growing a person and itās not like theyāre fake people. pregnant women grow differently and some barely grow while others grow a lot. that doesnāt mean itās time to become president of the the obvious club and make her more self-conscious.
Are You Pregnant With Twins/More Than Just One? Are You Sure?
i was asked this once when i was checking out in target. and the lady asked me with a super concerned look if i was sure there was just one. my husband was with me and shot me the look of ābabe please donāt curse this woman outā¦ā and i didnāt. but i was 8 months pregnant and almost fresh out of niceties. people, we go to the doctor every.single.damn.month. iām sure that if there were sextupletsĀ housing in my belly then i would know about it. and when did people become street doctors? like are you the expert on how my belly should look when pregnant with one versus 17?
Can I Touch Your Belly?
this i got a lot. i think that curly hair must make me appear friendlier than i am. but with baby abc i worked hard at being the glowy, friendly, sweet pregnant woman. it was work. but randoms asking to touch my belly was always super weird. i mean, itās my STOMACH for goodness sake! itās not normal to just go around touching strangers bellies! like thatās the epitome of NOT normal. i understand that itās exciting to see someone whoās making another person but in reality, what do you achieve by touching their stomachs? the chances of you catching the baby move are slim to none and even if you do feel them, it means nothing to you! youāll probably never see this person again! stop being weird.
When’s Your Due Date? Oh, You’re Not Making It That Long.
this is essentially saying the same thing as āyouāre huge!ā. human women become full term at around 37 weeks. so we can be pregnant for 10 whole months and thatās considered normal. hereās the crazier thing, we can look as big as octomom at 30 weeks but weāll more than likely still be pregnant weeks later. baby size doesnāt always have a direct correlation to when labor begins for women. sometimes it does, most times it doesnāt.
people can be rather insensitive to pregnant women. itās as if when youāre pregnant, youāre walking around with a target that says āplease say mean and insensitive things to me that would also offend just about anyone if you were to say them but because iām growing a life inside me iām now free game.ā itās annoying and sad but the awesome thing is between 9 and 10 months weāll drop a baby as well as the baby weight but theyāll be ignorant forever.
