Listen friends: parenthood is not for the faint of heart. This is quite literally the hardest job that I’ve ever had in my life and there are a lot of days I sit in amazement like, “How did I make it through this day?” Yes, I’m serious. Being a mom is hard as hell. Yes. Just like that.

But I was completely unprepared for how hard it is. My mom really made it seem like this was super fun all the time. We did fun road trips, lots of family fun, and great times with games. My brother and I rarely saw the stress of parenting. But now? Whew. There are some things that I wish I had known.

10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Becoming A Mom

  1. Pregnancy is not easy for everyone. Like it can be super hard and make you feel like you’re on your death bed. Not everyone is glowy and feeling like Beyonce.
  2. Mom-guilt is SO real. I get that not everyone experiences this but the ones who do, it’s virtually unshakeable.
  3. The biggest lesson in motherhood is NOT unconditional love–that’s easy. The biggest lesson is how little control you have over things.
  4. Two’s are great but those three’s? Baby… If there was an island we could send kids to be loved on in a safe environment from ages 3 to about 5, I would be for it.
  5. You will lose friends.
  6. You will gain new friends.
  7. All kids are little jerks.
  8. Kids go through this morbid phase and it’s completely normal.
  9. Accept unsolicited advice with a grain, dash, or full out shake of salt.
  10. It’s ok to ask for and accept help–we aren’t meant to do this alone.

While motherhood is hard, I wouldn’t change having my littles for anything in the world. They are these amazing little beings that push me to be better But that doesn’t mean it’s not hard!

What’s something you wish you knew before you became a mom?